tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82002499681332059432024-03-05T00:57:41.523-05:00Taking it Day by Day with Developmental Delays/Now Severe Multiple Impairments (and Autism)I just became a registered nurse, and my ten-year-old son is infant-like, has frequent meltdowns, and cannot stand without support. He is missing a piece of DNA (chromosome 9q22.2) but we are unsure if it made him disabled. He has a diagnosis of severely multiply impaired, paucity of white brain matter, partial agenesis of the corpus callosum, microcephaly, deformities of the ankle and foot, and Autism. Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.comBlogger292125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-18923448201349397112020-03-23T11:26:00.001-04:002020-03-23T11:26:25.148-04:00Michigan Governor announces Stay at Home Michigan for next 3 weeksMichigan Governor Whitmer has announced a home quarantine for the next 3 weeks, which would run through Easter April 13, 2020. Unnecessary travel, gatherings and running errands should be avoided to stop the spread of the Corona virus- Covid 19.<br />
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I've been out of school now since May, and done with nursing orientation. Working at the hospital is a nice change of pace. There are many draining days, and I am super busy when I am there. I work in a cancer hospital on a bone marrow transplant and hematological cancer floor. The change of focus has been good for my well being. It's nice to leave all the stresses of home, and go to a job. My job isn't easy, it's quite overwhelming. However, I still enjoy doing something other than being a mother as my main job. Besides my new nursing skills, it involves trouble shooting, time management skills, understanding, caring and compassion. My life raising children/and two special needs kids certainly carries over to nursing, but when I'm at my job I pull from my scholarly resources far more often. It was a much needed change, and I am grateful I had the opportunity to grow into a new career.</div>
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Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-82585908580815775452019-11-29T12:03:00.001-05:002019-11-29T12:03:43.243-05:00Not using respite home againUnfortunately, we no longer feel comfortable sending Andy to the respite home we used to have him stay at several nights a year. The respite home didn't tell us that Andy was attacked by another child until I had to call them after his frantic arrival at school that morning. Andy's teacher called me at 9:30am to say that he was inconsolable. I could hear him screaming and crying in the background. "We've tried to do everything to calm him down, and we also noticed he has injuries on his arm. We saw the van that drops him off in the parking lot at 7:30am. They were just parked there so we think Andy was sitting in the van for 90 minutes".<br />
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Andy had a large chunk of skin missing from his arm, along with several scratches. When he came home, it took him two hours to calm down. I can't send him anywhere again when he is in such a vulnerable state, where he can't talk to me or defend himself. It is unfortunate for Andy, and I think he must have been terrified after it occurred. It happened in the evening, so I'm not sure how well he slept after that. Not to mention being woken up at 5:30 or 6 am to go sit in a van for two hours. It is also unfortunate for us, because we lost a valuable resource.Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-1986910565139576772019-10-13T07:36:00.002-04:002019-10-13T07:45:32.367-04:00ProLoQuo2go app is half off October 14-16<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-udfUU-zsZo4/XaMNsNmjL9I/AAAAAAAABls/u8Y6MG9za0E7Dr6i7HJ94to6yETWgPxsgCK4BGAYYCw/s1600/image.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="166" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-udfUU-zsZo4/XaMNsNmjL9I/AAAAAAAABls/u8Y6MG9za0E7Dr6i7HJ94to6yETWgPxsgCK4BGAYYCw/s320/image.png" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">It is so hard to find this information on line, I've been waiting for this sale. The app is half off October 14th - October 16th, 2019. Regular price is $249.99!</span>Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-36930954837146237842019-08-28T16:18:00.004-04:002019-09-23T16:47:00.657-04:00I passed the NCLEX exam (state boards) and I'm a Registered Nurse<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9oNJ1dqWOsU/XWbgVbdL7WI/AAAAAAAABj8/ksZMZN2jGSICAxEi4aEg9BwYbUoVxWdBACK4BGAYYCw/s1600/IMG_1395.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9oNJ1dqWOsU/XWbgVbdL7WI/AAAAAAAABj8/ksZMZN2jGSICAxEi4aEg9BwYbUoVxWdBACK4BGAYYCw/s320/IMG_1395.jpg" width="320" /></a>With three kids it was tough, but I studied for the NCLEX for a couple of months and passed it first try! Now I'm a registered nurse, and doing some job searching. It is taking a long time to hear back from employers (several months on some).<br />
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The kids are stressful as a whole, so we are still trying to use the respite home as often as we can. Just last weekend, Andy went to the respite home, while the other two kids stayed with their grandparents. We got away to Mackinaw Island and had a nice night away. We rode a tandem bike around the island, and I begged Kevin to stop and sit on the beach for a few minutes (he was on a mission to get around the island as fast as we could). It was nice to just sit on the beach without having to chase a two year old up and down the shoreline, or worry about Andy getting too hot.<br />
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Using the respite home has also been really helpful. Getting a break from the caregiving of Andy has really helped our spirits and energizes me. Having my mother-in-law help with Andy is also very awesome. Having breaks has been really key in keeping us going.Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-79945819207935609442019-06-11T21:35:00.002-04:002019-06-11T21:35:25.661-04:00I cut Andy's hairIt is so hard taking Andy to get a hair cut. I usually take him to the mall, and he ends up crying and screaming throughout the hair cut. I watch what the hairdressers do each time, and I've watched a couple YouTube videos to help me learn to cut Andy's hair. The first few times weren't the greatest, but this most recent cut came out pretty good. It's a relief not to have to drive all the way to the mall, and deal with all the staring and gut-wrenching crying that he does during the hair cut. It's a huge relief actually!<br />
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<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-89144516551381015072019-06-06T12:36:00.001-04:002019-06-06T12:36:48.979-04:00It's been hard, I'm not gonna lieIt's been a rough last 6 months. I've been studying like crazy to finish up my nursing program, and now I'm studying for my state boards (NCLEX) exam. We are still taking Andy to ABA twice a week, and to other appointments. Now my daughter is in early on/early intervention for kids under three. There are home visits and school visits with that.<br />
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Andy had his 10th birthday, and we took him swimming. He had a great time. We had to keep the little one separated from him when entering and exiting the pool. She was having meltdowns that would have sent Andy into a tailspin. It's always hard work going out with the whole family.<br />
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<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-17746910308759570752019-01-16T14:39:00.003-05:002019-01-16T14:57:49.874-05:00Cutting stress down using respite careI am trying very hard to schedule recreational time, and I am making it a priority. I'm in a rut of feeling powerless and helpless with my constant infections, and our family trying to care for Andy and the other kids. A couple weeks ago, we took our two daughters to a waterpark for the night with some friends. It was a really nice break.<br />
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I have to admit, I was so sad when I dropped Andy off at the respite home. He started whining as we approached the home. When I took him inside, he started whimpering. One of the workers came out that he is familiar with, but he hasn't been to the home in many months. She started pushing his chair into the kitchen and he cried out like I've never heard him before. He was protesting to me against being there. I felt like I could vomit.<br />
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The worker assured me that Andy would be okay, and that it's just been a long time since he had been there. I tried to comfort him, but she reassured me saying "Just go and enjoy yourself". I mentioned that I'd call in a couple hours. I drove away in tears, and wanted to run back inside and bring him home with me. We were having him stay there for two nights.<br />
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I told my husband right when I got home that I might need to pick Andy up in the morning, and take him with us if he was still having a hard time. We both agreed. I called after dinner time, and found that Andy had been too upset to eat dinner, but was calm now. It made me feel horrible. I asked if they could try to feed him some crackers before bed.<br />
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I called in the morning to see how Andy was doing. The worker told me that he woke up happy and ate all his breakfast. It made me feel a bit better, but I still questioned leaving him there. I had so many worries, I thought it would be hard to be away. We started out on our drive, and were only going to be a couple hours away. We were really only gone until the next afternoon.<br />
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I picked Andy up two hours earlier than I said I would. I called ahead to let them know I was 30 minutes out. I felt bad when I got there, because he was napping on a blanket on the floor, and would now have to be woken up. They told me he needed to play in the room alone, because he was upset. It is also what I do when he is at home with us, and he needs to calm down and be away from everyone.<br />
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Now that our handicapped accessible ranch is almost finished, we will be moving in soon. It will be easier to have our parents stay with Andy if we want to go somewhere. He will be more comfortable not having to go to the home, but we will probably still use it on occasion.<br />
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I have planned another waterpark night away for the future, but this time, Andy will stay with our parents in our home. We will see how it goes. I think he will do pretty well. We are so fortunate to have supportive parents that help us out, and enable us to have some time away. It is helping cut back on stress, and lessening our feelings of powerlessness to be away from the chaos.<br />
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<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-61276652061854355872018-12-13T06:32:00.001-05:002019-12-21T13:25:52.897-05:00I have IgA deficiencyI'm not sure if all the stress is causing my drop in Immunoglobulin A, or if it's always been this way. I've been struggling to stay healthy for the last several years. Every time I get a small cold, it always turns into a horrible sinus infection. I've had my current sinus infection for 5 almost 6 weeks. It has been hard to study and focus on school.<br />
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I've been on three courses of antibiotics (Cephalosporins and Augmentin two different strengths). I am also currently on anti-fungal suppression therapy for the last 12 months. A blood test was done on my immunoglobulin levels. The test revealed that my IgA is almost gone, its below 5.<br />
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The doctor also said that it would be good for me to try and cut my stress in half, but he knows it probably isn't possible. I recently revisited and he wants me to have genetic testing for STAT III deficiency. It could be a genetic reason for my susceptibility to infections. I'll find out more soon.Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-48211709456555412692018-11-19T10:14:00.002-05:002018-11-19T10:16:18.347-05:00Developmental Disabilities Research study for ages 5-7Oregon State University is conducting a research study on children with Developmental Disabilities who are ages 5- 7 years and 11months old. Please click on the link below to participate.<br />
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First of all, I would recommend that anyone pay a little bit more to get a good seat. It was so awesome when Taylor Swift came back to the small stages to perform! She was right in front of us! My daughter was pretty upset that she didn't get to give Taylor a high five, but she was just a few feet away, it was quite amazing.<br />
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We saw the Detroit show at Ford Field. The whole show was top notch. I would see her again, and pay for a pricey seat AGAIN. It is amazing that my daughter and I can share a musical interest like this. My daughter, who is 11, said "I've been listening to Taylor since I was born", and she has! I started liking country music at 18, and was excited when Taylor came onto the scene. It has been wonderful watching her evolve, and she seems like such a wonderful young woman.<br />
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She gave a moment of silence for Aretha Franklin, which was so great. Aretha's funeral was actually just a few miles away from Ford Field at the African American Museum on the same night as the concert. The acts preceding Taylor were awesome as well. This show is well worth attending!<br />
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<b>What time does Taylor Swift go on stage?</b> About 8:45. After you hear Joan Jett's "Bad Reputation" song. Charli XCX goes on right at 7:00pm, and about Camila Cabello about 7:45. It was great to hear "Havana", and "Fancy", and Iconopops "I Don't care".<br />
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<b>How long is the show?</b> Taylor sang for two full hours, from about 8:45-10:45.<br />
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<b>What songs does Taylor Swift sing?</b> The songs were roughly, Ready for it? Bad Blood, Delicate, Blank space, Style, Love Story, Gorgeous, King of my Heart, Getaway Car, Look what you made me do, Shake it off, Dancing with our hands tied, End Game, This is why we can't have nice things, Don't blame me, Dress, and We are never ever getting back together<br />
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I tried wearing my purple wig for a bit, but we didn't get picked to meet Taylor. Maybe some day! We loved the show anyway, and had a great time! I also liked how it was a PG show, there wasn't any foul language or swearing. This is such a well-done concert and amazing experience, you will really enjoy this show!<br />
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<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-80224781292198449012018-09-01T12:12:00.001-04:002018-09-01T12:12:06.224-04:00We had to fire our builder. You can too!My husband hired a supposed friend to build our handicapped accessible ranch home for our family and Andy. His new home building company had only built one completed home that had not been sold yet, which we viewed, when we signed on. Everything seemed legit, they had a lengthy contract in place, and seemed like they knew what they were doing.<br />
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We got a home construction loan that gave us one year to complete the project. We foolishly did not set any parameters for the stages of building, for example, roughing done at 8 weeks etc. We signed papers September 1. The project was dragging on and on, and our home was open to the elements of snow and rain (we are in Michigan) with an open roof for 5 months. There were many days where no one showed up to work at all. We kept seeing him starting other homes, and working on those homes instead of ours.<br />
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My husband Kevin complained to him over and over again to "please just finish my roof and get it closed up, and make it water tight", but he did not. His crew would instead show up and be working on the interior of the home, or the front porch and not closing up the several large openings in the roof. My husband then started complaining through emails to his friends dad, who is the financial backer and part of his son's new company.<br />
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They kept telling us, "this is a custom home, it will take as long as it takes". It was growing ridiculous, because after 6 months, there was no signs of the roof being completed, and his crew was showing up less and less. He would even tell my husband, the guys don't want to work when it's cold, I have no control over getting them to show up". Kevin told them, "You have 2 weeks to get the roof done, or I'm firing you". They didn't really care, and my husband fired him.<br />
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My husband had taken photos of other homes in the area that were being built after ours was started. After just 8 weeks, the home was completely roughed, and the roof and shingles were on. Kevin showed them this in comparison to where we were at after 6 months. "Those aren't custom homes", they would say.<br />
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We had to pay his full builders fee, which was insane. Otherwise, they wouldn't release the loan for us to hire another builder. My husband already had a new builder lined up. He was someone our son's school bus driver recommended. He was all ready to go, but the old builder slowed us up for another two months. We thought since this person was a friend (the old builder), they would just call it good for all the fees they had already received thus far, but they would not.<br />
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This company is basically racketeering, because they promise to build you a house, and then they don't show up in a timely fashion. People get so fed up with them that they just want them gone, and by then they've taken all your money. It was a truly awful experience.<br />
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The guys father, who is a millionaire, would not allow his son to let us out of the contract without paying them the FULL builders fee, which they did not deserve. It was tens of thousands of dollars, which we don't really have to spare. My husband feels badly, and feels that he disappointed me and has let our family down. This is a home for a SEVERELY DISABLED BOY!!! These crooks are unbelievable.<br />
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The new builder needs to get paid as well, and so far is working with us despite our strained funds. He was actually heaven sent if you ask me. He is helping us out big time, despite his busy schedule.<br />
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The moral of the story is, any one can get screwed over by a builder, and it is SO scary. We were handing this guy huge amounts of money at a time, and trusting he would do the right thing. We never thought a friend would do this to us, but he did.<br />
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We were working with Chemical bank, so they at least have said they will no longer work with this builder in the future. We could not get the bank to state that they were "unsatisfied with the builder". If they would have agreed to this, we could have gotten out of the contract. We now have to pay a huge fee every month for going over the one year mark with our construction.<br />
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This new Michigan builder has done this to several other people. For one woman, in Canton, MI, they completely stopped showing up. She was paying cash out of her pocket though, so they may have felt they wouldn't have any bad repercussions from a bank. Another man in Northville, MI, is still stuck in a contract with them, and refuses to pay their fees to get out of it. He cannot move forward as of now.<br />
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The builder's father has threatened to sue us if we put out any bad reviews about them, which further shows what bad people they are. They actually have no experience as custom home builders. I wanted to talk to some of the people they were building homes for, but didn't before we started the project. If we would have, we would have never used them. I don't even think they would really be able to provide any one with references that are real, because none of their customers would recommend them- ever.<br />
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We are so thankful for the new builder Walt Holden, he has so graciously been helping us pick up the pieces of this home construction nightmare we started out with. He has fixed several of the previous builders costly mistakes, that would have made the house irreparable in the long run. Things weren't done properly and now we are paying for his mistakes.<br />
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<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-5130371924161216732018-08-27T21:27:00.003-04:002018-08-27T21:27:36.234-04:00Seeing some progress from ABA therapy<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-6_b7MaBCf-Y/W4SiQAS2YKI/AAAAAAAABcc/imYvyMqO2PIJOSTWhDsg7ckw7W0PNPpegCK4BGAYYCw/s1600/IMG_8251.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-6_b7MaBCf-Y/W4SiQAS2YKI/AAAAAAAABcc/imYvyMqO2PIJOSTWhDsg7ckw7W0PNPpegCK4BGAYYCw/s320/IMG_8251.JPG" width="240" /></a>Andy has been picking up a fork from the table and putting it in his mouth! It is so awesome to finally be seeing this happen. He is gaining muscle memory somehow through repetition with the ABA technician at therapy. We also reinforce this at home, but we've never seen a big change like this, so suddenly. The ABA therapy really seems to be paying off! He attends 4-5 days a week. Andy does start to lose interest in picking up the fork after about 5-6 times. Once this happens though, I hand him the fork and he will continue eating for about 10 more bites. If he starts lessening his grasp on the fork when I try to hand it to him, then we finish the last few bites with hand over hand feeding.<br />
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I'm trying to consistently show Andy that he needs to hold the utensil every time, if he wants to eat. He has no problem putting toys and rags in his mouth to chew on them, so now we have to push our expectation that he will feed himself. We are seeing some improvements, and this comes with a great relief! Andy does not stab at food with the fork, but just getting him to put the fork with food on it into his mouth is unbelievable.<br />
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Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-24359256294026757082018-08-02T13:46:00.002-04:002018-08-02T13:47:10.578-04:00Trying ABA therapy<a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-nxyjZco-Gcs/W2NAjIACwVI/AAAAAAAABb8/-8wzDjJ9k9wxOVD3DerEFGF2WMaR6cdOACK4BGAYYCw/s1600/IMG_8134.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-nxyjZco-Gcs/W2NAjIACwVI/AAAAAAAABb8/-8wzDjJ9k9wxOVD3DerEFGF2WMaR6cdOACK4BGAYYCw/s320/IMG_8134.JPG" width="240" /></a>We are trying ABA therapy for Andy. He attends for several hours. They are working on his communication with others, and trying to get him to use picture cards to get what he would like. He has cards with his water cup on them, tv shows he likes to watch, and toys he likes to play with. The technician is working with Andy to show him how to use the cards. The hope is that he will pick up a card from a board and hand it to the technician. I felt he might be more successful picking up the card he would like, and placing it in a container, because he doesn't really hand people things yet. I don't know though, maybe he will surprise me!<br />
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Andy is benefiting from this therapy so far. He is improving on fork feeding himself, as this is a goal they work on as well as here at home. I put the food on the fork and put it on the table or hand him the fork. He will then either put the fork down, remove the food from the fork and mash it up, or he will put the fork with the food on it in his mouth and put the food back down. They are also working on him shape sorting, brushing his teeth and communication.<br />
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Since Andy has been diagnosed with autism, his insurance will pay for ABA therapy. It has been great since I was able to get it started soon after his school year ended. He loves getting in the car and having somewhere to go, and things to do. It's been a real blessing for us, because I think it's helping him, and it's definitely helping us give him a great day.<br />
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I dropped him off in the morning, and picked him up a little over 24 hours later. I told him "You're going to be sleeping at this house tonight, and I'll come get you tomorrow. " After I dropped Andy off, I went back home and my husband and I, and the girls got in the car to drive to a waterpark hotel. We had fun, but the 18-month old was exhausting. My older daughter had a great time. We ate at a cafeteria buffet with no wait time for our meal, so that worked out great for us. The baby slept just fine in her temporary crib in the hotel room, and even took a nap in there because the room could be darkened. </div>
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Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-44275352141637232482018-07-05T19:37:00.003-04:002018-07-05T19:37:39.483-04:00Using a respite home occasionallyThings have been tough as usual. Andy was having half days at school, but that is over now. I've been trying to get Andy into ABA, but it isn't looking very promising. The company advertises weekend and evening hours, but I've been trying to get Andy in there for two months now. They are telling me they hope to have him being seen by the three month mark. Summer is here, and Andy needs some structured activities to do. Otherwise, he gets bored, and has meltdowns.<br />
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We found out about a respite home a few years ago, from one of Andy's social workers. I was reluctant to give it a chance. I was worried about how Andy would do there, and didn't want to have him stay overnight somewhere. Recently, I've had a change of heart.<br />
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We called them to get started, and to just check it out. The first step was taking Andy in to eat lunch there, so they could meet him and see his demeanor. He did okay. He was a bit whiney there, and we played music for him to help him calm down. A couple weeks later, the next step was for them to pick him up from school in a handicapped van, and take him to the home to spend the night. In the morning, they returned him to school. This was a trial to see how he would do. They said he was okay to begin spending some additional nights there. We signed up for additional dates for respite time.<br />
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Andy will probably only go there 3-4 times a year, as there are lots of other families that use these services for vacations without their impaired child. Sometimes, he only needs to go there for 24 hours. This is enough time for us to drive to a hotel and check in there, and pick him up the next day. It has been an awesome resource for us to be able to spend time with our other children. It provides relief, but at the same time, we worry about Andy when he is there. I call to check on him, and usually feel better when I find that he is doing well. I also feel better when I pick Andy up, and he is happy and doing fine.<br />
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We are still having a trying time with Andy at home. He does well at school, and other agencies. That's what they tell us. He gets very bored here at home and melts down. Since it's been really hard on everyone, I am taking extra steps to have Andy looked after, so that we can do some activities without him.<br />
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I've also found an ABA center that offers weekend hours. We are waiting for someone to be available to start seeing Andy. This will work on his behaviors, and also provide us with more respite time.<br />
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We are building the new house right now, so soon we will have to find time to get it ready for move in. I'm trying to finish up nursing school for this year, and then I will get a school break.<br />
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The baby likes to play with Andy, so this has been great. They have to be watched carefully, but he is sometimes entertained by her for a short while.<br />
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<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-18455247131943448092018-04-08T09:48:00.002-04:002018-04-11T21:04:16.356-04:00Our spring break was hellOur spring break is an awful hell. A hell of hearing Andy cry and scream and meltdown all day long. It's grueling and gut-wrenching when he's out of school. I don't know what to do with him, I try to plan ahead and I don't have anywhere for him to go.<br />
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Luckily, my older daughter got to get a way for a few days with my sister. I am very thankful for that. We try to keep Andy happy, but can't drop everything to take him on car rides or even figure out why he's mad.<br />
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Andy was flipping out all Easter long. He was nuts, and I thought he'd be better when we got him out of the house. When we got to our Easter destination, Andy screamed for fifteen minutes straight once we got inside, and I asked my husband to please take him home. My little one also started crying inconsolably an hour later and did not stop until he came back to pick us up 45 minutes later.<br />
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I am studying for multiple exams for school, and my Dad just passed away. We had his funeral, and his burial is in a few days. Everything is so stressful. I feel like I'm on the edge of a breakdown all the time. I'm just on the edge of the fence. I've told my husband, I think he feels the same.<br />
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My body got out of control on Saturday. It was my husband's birthday. Company was over, and I had a headache all morning. I slammed two glasses of water, thinking maybe I just needed more water. After we ate, I go to our bathroom and tell my husband my head is killing me. I take two Tylenol and now I'm super nauseous. He stays with me and it is the most intense horrific migraine I've ever had in my life. My whole face was aching. I couldn't get away from the pain.<br />
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I started vomiting and everything came up. It was just too much. Everything was just too much. We are caring for Andy, and having to do all the other things we are obligated to do and it is affecting us. Yesterday was an eye opener for me. This is just too much and I have to actively start searching for breaks for our family. At all costs.<br />
<br />Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-18619201900189818852018-02-23T07:12:00.003-05:002018-02-23T07:12:47.118-05:00Andy and baby are doing a bit better<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-kp95EqNxgdo/WpAE_yc9_wI/AAAAAAAABYY/M313n1JtJlQRYxvoWHzsD0_Ey1hPnMkXQCK4BGAYYCw/s1600/IMG_6169.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-kp95EqNxgdo/WpAE_yc9_wI/AAAAAAAABYY/M313n1JtJlQRYxvoWHzsD0_Ey1hPnMkXQCK4BGAYYCw/s320/IMG_6169.JPG" width="320" /></a>Andy is tolerating the baby's noises, and having her around him much better. Don't get me wrong, there are still times when he has a huge meltdown because she let out a squeal. But the fact that she can be around him part of the time is huge for us. He was watching her standing up yesterday, and he was smiling at her. Almost like he was showing that he's happy she can stand up on her own now.<br />
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A lot of times, the baby likes to crawl right over Andy, and try to take his toys away. When she does this though, Andy can here us correcting her, and he knows we are trying to teach her not to do this. He's very tolerant when she comes at him, and I am thankful for this also. The baby is also starting to get jealous when she sees us offering Andy his cup of water for a drink. She starts crying and saying "no, no, no".<br />
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I don't have school today either. That's my getaway from all this. My husband is trying to work from home, and ignore all the screaming and crying from the house. Believe me, I want to cry too. The thing is, Andy needs to get out of the house. We don't need someone to come over and be with him, he needs to be taken out and entertained. I can't do that right now with the baby. He loves going swimming, which is really hard, as he's 50 pounds and unhelpful in moving around. My oldest daughter doesn't want to be seen with him either.<br />
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We took Andy to an arcade birthday party, and my oldest couldn't stand it, anytime we brought him near her. Get away mom, okay, go somewhere else now. Andy couldn't stay in the karaoke room we were in, because it was too loud for him. He had his music on his headphones, but he was still getting set off here and there.<br />
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My husband mostly walked him around the arcade and mall, while I played with the baby and fed her. Then we fed Andy and the baby an early dinner, and he was happy for a bit. He loved the one hour car ride there and back, the baby not so much.<br />
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Although the Christmas break was hell with getting sick for almost all of it, I did get to take my oldest daughter to a movie. My husband also took her to two movies during the break. We went to see Jumanji, and it was such a good movie. I laughed so hard a few times, I really enjoyed myself. It was a great night out for us.Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-52136376053621543712018-01-02T10:59:00.001-05:002018-01-02T10:59:55.327-05:00<div style="text-align: center;">
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Andy had a hard time at Christmas, he cried a lot once our house filled with people, and he did the same on the baby's birthday a few days earlier. He was happy to watch tv in his room though, and play with his toys. We have a video monitor that we use to keep an eye on him. He doesn't get into anything, he just plays with his toys and doesn't try to go anywhere. He will only really army crawl a foot or so. It gets hard when he has meltdowns, and his behavior gets out of control. I went into his room and laid with him a few times to get him to calm down.<br />
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The holidays always bring illness, so unfortunately, Andy ended up with strep throat from one of our visitors. None of us has it. Luckily, I had a sore throat as well, so when Andy started getting really upset and not eating, my throat pain lead me to check his throat with a light and a tongue depressor. It looked a little red to me, so I called his doctor on a Saturday morning. They were in and we got an appointment. He had a positive rapid strep test, but his pediatrician wouldn't check me. So, I had to drag Andy to urgent care with me, where I was told I did not have strep.<br />
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The baby has been self-feeding for months, so I'm trying to get Andy to do the same. He will put toys and cloths in his mouth with no problem, but will not put food in there. I think he feels its our job. I know he sometimes doesn't have the coordination to pick up and drop in, but its been a long time of us feeding him every meal. So, we will continue to work on feeding finger foods and snacks.Amy Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10917206246908616095noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8200249968133205943.post-3759827027541143002017-12-28T10:59:00.001-05:002017-12-28T10:59:25.037-05:00Chest pains from stressI was having a lot of heart palpitations throughout my last pregnancy. Once the pregnancy was over, I was still experiencing them. I was trying to give my body time to get back to normal, but things seemed to be getting worse. Several EKGs showed an abnormal T wave, and a short PR interval. These can be serious things when paired up with other symptoms like fainting (syncope) and a fast resting heartbeat (tachycardia), which I don't have. I've just been experiencing chest pains with stress that last for one to two minutes. <div>
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I was told by a physician's assistant, and my primary doctor to follow up with a cardiologist. I watched when the pains came for several months, and what brought them on. It was always stress, and not breathing or physical exertion. So these were good signs. </div>
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When I saw the cardiologist, he did an echocardiogram of my heart (ultrasound) and told me things looked good. I do have two leaky valves, he said they just don't close all the way, and that's ok. The doctor told me that I just have a lot on my plate right now, and that my body is giving me chest pains. He asked if my neck had been tense. It has been very tense and I can feel knots in it. He told me that sometimes the neck tightness can cut off blood circulation to the heart and cause me pain. He said some people get headaches due to stress, some get bowel problems, and I'm getting chest pains. </div>
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Anyone that has chest pain should be evaluated by a doctor, but I thought I would share what happened to me to help give info to others that may be experiencing this. Signs and symptoms that should not be ignored are, difficulty breathing, shortness of breath, fainting, chest pain that does not go away after a few minutes. If this happens to me or anyone else, we must go to the hospital emergency room. The doctor felt I was a bit young to have cardiovascular disease at this time. He didn't see any plaques/clogs on my echo, so he felt it was probably just stress. </div>
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